Searching for Balance

I turned 40 this year. Despite all I had thought 40 would be, I have found that it is NOT what I thought. I thought by the time I turned 40 I would have life figured out. I thought by the time I turned 40 I would have discovered my purpose. I thought by the time I turned 40 I would feel like a grown up. I thought .... I am sure you get it. I feel so lost. I do not know where my life is going. Right now my life is so chaotic. I feel like I am lost in my work because that is all I seem to do. I do not have time for friends, nor do I have time for myself. I am lucky to squeeze in a few minutes for my family. I feel guilty because there is not enough time for my kids. I am sure that I am not the only one who is looking for balance. I just feel like I should be doing things differently. I don't want to become 60 and realize that the choices I made when I was 40 were the wrong ones. I don't know if this makes sense or not. All I know is that I feel lost and sometimes hopeless. Is there a magical age when I will feel like I finally get it? When will I grow up and find balance in my life and how will I do this? I just don't know.